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Preparing Your Child for University: 5 Critical Soft Skills for University Readiness

More so than ever before, a university degree opens doors to the kind of successful, fulfilling career that all students aspire toward (and that parents and families, teachers, and other mentors and caregivers want for them too). But, the higher education environment can be different from the typically highly supported, scaffolded, and familiar environment of school. For students to be successful, they need to come in prepared with more than a solid foundation in the traditional reading, writing, and arithmetic.

“Soft skills” go beyond standard classroom studies; they are university- and career-readiness skills that are interpersonal in nature, which include personal qualities, characteristics, and attitudes. Here are five soft skills that are key to a great university experience—with tips for how parents (and educators) can help students develop them:


The loss of structure is the most difficult aspect of the transition to university for many students. It is especially true for students who move away from home for university, as they now have unprecedented freedom.

This freedom means that almost every university student succumbs to some less-than-great ideas at some point, such as staying up late on a class night or rushing assignments as there were no reminders from those around them. Like all other skills, the ability to overcome these temptations is learned. Self-management encompasses all things related to effectively handling one’s own life—including time management, healthy sleep and eating patterns, and financial responsibility. Building a solid foundation in these “adulting” skills can better prepare your child when they start studying on a university campus.

What parents and caregivers can do:

  • Practice time management by having students keep an updated calendar (digitally or with an old school planner) of his or her assignments, extra-curricular activities, and social events.
  • Make healthy habits enjoyable and ingrained by cooking as a family and regularly being active together.
  • Talk to your student about practical skills like doing laundry, making appointments, and managing money.
  • When appropriate, teach self-advocacy skills by helping your student work through problems or challenges they encounter—not solving those problems for them.


This should come as no surprise—the ability to effectively express thoughts, feelings, ideas, and challenges is key to effectively navigating university classes and adult life in general. Your child needs to know how to listen to those around them and share their own ideas in both written and oral form. It’s also important that students learn to recognize their audience and tailor communication styles appropriately for different groups of people (for instance, communication with a professor or manager will likely have a different tone than communication with friends or classmates).

Students can start learning marketable communication skills early and can continue to improve throughout school. Here are some activities to give your students extra practice in communication.

What parents and caregivers can do:

  • Share some of the types of communication you engage in regularly (like scheduling events via email, making appointments, sending thank-you notes, etc.).
  • Read articles from various publications together and talk about the different audiences they are written for and how that affects tone.
  • Help your student take on responsibility for scheduling their own doctor, dentist, and other appointments, and teach them to advocate for their health and wellbeing when speaking to their provider.


University classes seek to prepare students for careers—and that inevitably means a lot of projects requiring teamwork. Students must be comfortable working and communicating (see the communication tip above) with others. They must be prepared to interact with others whose backgrounds, worldviews, and ways of thinking are not necessarily like theirs, and they must be able to embrace differences as an opportunity to create better work instead of seeing those differences as a challenge. It’s also important that students know how to navigate conflicts and disagreements when they do arise in a way that’s respectful and productive.

What parents and caregivers can do:

  • Encourage students to experience situations that require collaboration by taking part in sports teams, performance groups, interest clubs, or part-time work.
  • Expose students to a diversity of opinions by taking them to different cultural events, reading a variety of news publications, or even just visiting different places.
  • Talk to your students about effective conflict resolution skills, like listening, using “I-statements,” and considering others’ points of view.

Personal Goal Setting

University is all about choice. It’s a great opportunity for students to explore their interests and chart a path for their future that works for them. But, all of those choices can feel overwhelming at times. That’s why it’s so important for your student to enter university with the ability to set and follow through on personal goals. Having the foundational knowledge to identify realistic, productive goals and make an actionable plan to achieve them can be pivotal for students in university and can lead to a much richer, more fulfilling, and more enjoyable experience by helping them maximize the opportunities available.

What parents and caregivers can do:

  • Familiarize your student with the “SMART” framework for goal setting.
  • Share your own personal goals—and your process to achieve them—to help your student understand the value of goal setting beyond the classroom.
  • Talk to your student about what they want their university experience to look like in order to get them thinking about some of the things to pursue and accomplish upon getting there.

Problem-Solving and Critical Thinking

A university course can be much less specific than learning in school. Your student will be challenged to push the boundaries of their own thinking beyond simply memorizing and reciting information. They will be asked to weigh different viewpoints, make inferences, and tackle difficult questions. Creativity, persistence, and a willingness to embrace failures (and try again) are necessary for success in the university classroom.

What parents and caregivers can do:

  • Encourage critical-thinking skills by asking students questions that can’t be answered with a simple yes or no—there is never a shortage of topics to discuss that will push your student to consider new ideas and solve challenging problems.
  • Help your student develop a growth mindset by viewing failures as a natural and valuable experience to be learned from.

True university readiness is all about finding a balance between academic and real-world skills. If you have other students who are moving grades and not quite ready to move to university, take a look at our blog on the skills students need for a successful grade transition.

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